Some of the people in a mastermind I’m in asked for a summary of a meeting I recently attended — just a few highlights — for us to chat about the next time we meet. One of the questions asked by several people was around “Why”. Why slow or reverse aging? Why worry about it?

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Interesting set of questions. It doesn’t occur to me to ask that since I’m planning on living to 150. Longevity is my future. But some of them were coming from the perspective that we “degrade” as we age, and who would want to live longer…


Boarding homes for seniors.“Poor homes” or “poor farms”. In the early 1900s, these are where elderly people went to live when their families weren’t able to care for them. Initially, the county an elderly person lived in shouldered the responsibility of caring for the aging population. Medicare/Medicaid took that over when it was formed in the mid 1950s.

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As I write about this concept of rethinking retirement homes, I’m specifically focused on independent living situations with various services built into the “rent”, like a free-standing dorm or even a campus of apartments for the aging, meals, exercise programs, educational opportunities…


“They” say always be polite.
“They” say get a college education.
“They” say eat your vegetables.
“They” say make your bed.

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I like being polite (though sometimes not being polite is necessary), appreciate my college education even though I’m not working in that field (and I recognize it’s not for everyone), and love vegetables (and I’m dumbfounded that some people don’t). But, I don’t see value in making my bed. I’m just going to unmake it again the next time I see it.

“They” say get eight hours of sleep.
“They” say wash your hands.
“They” say wear clean underwear.
“They” say wear…


“I want to stay relevant” — that’s one of the comments I heard from participants of my survey on how people feel about aging. That, or they “didn’t want to feel irrelevant”.

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That’s a valid feeling: everyone wants to feel relevant, I believe. Here’s what it takes to stay relevant: maybe you’ll find some pointers that will help you. Maybe you’ll have some other ideas to share in the comments section.

Don’t dis modern culture.

Accepting culture and life changes is important in staying current and relevant. Criticizing current times shows a lack of interest or ability in changing and growing. …


As a college sophomore, I wanted to be an exchange student. England seemed like an exciting option. Mom dissuaded me by telling me England didn’t have central heat and I wouldn’t be comfortable. I didn’t understand exactly what that meant, “no central heat”, but I understood Mom was saying I couldn’t go. Given my life experiences since then, that little bit of discomfort, if it had in fact been the truth, would have prepared me for my life.

If no central heat was uncomfortable, imagine a cabin with minimal insulation and a coal/wood-burning stove to heat and cook with. Heaven…


People are living longer today than they were in 1900: 30 years longer!

If you were given 30 years, how would you spend them?

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The extra years we have don’t get tacked onto the end of our lives but instead are plopped into the middle. Or, maybe you have a choice of where you “live” those extra years. That’s a valuable concept right there.

What does “living” mean to you? Freedom? Relevance? Energy and mobility? Sitting on a beach or a boat, hiking the mountains, or playing golf?

There’s an advantage in knowing your extra years can be lived now…


Searching for meaning is a concept that has only recently, like in the past decade, had any meaning or sense of import to me. It seemed to me that life is meant to be lived and enjoyed, not explored and evaluated. Reading Viktor Frankl’s book Man’s Search for Meaning opened my eyes to a whole new way of thinking about life. I started searching for my meaning.

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The more time that passes, the more value I see in finding meaning, even knowing your purpose. Frankl shared the observation that it was the people who saw meaning in life who were…


A common response to my announcement that I was walking the Camino de Santiago was that I could get hurt or robbed. These warnings were from people who knew nothing about the Camino culture or experience. At the time I puzzled over such first reactions. Now I smile and do my thing.

Photo by Kit Cassingham from the French Way of the Camino de Santiago

It’s not uncommon for people to project their fears and anxieties onto others when a new project or experience is being approached. For the longest time, I accepted others’ doubts, sometimes to the point of canceling my plans. Not any more.

As I’ve grown into my confidence and…


Do you approach challenges as something good, as a game, or as something to be avoided? Barny Stinson, a character in the TV series How I Met Your Mother loved challenges and was often heard saying “challenge accepted” as he took on some crazy challenge. That line always made me laugh. I seem to enjoy challenges, too.

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Recently, I had my concept of “challenge” expanded. Your body benefits from being challenged — even if you don’t enjoy the process initially.

The body improves through challenges. You challenge your muscles by stressing them when you push just beyond their limit. The…


During college, my roommate and I had many brain-stretching conversations. Generally, they were about science issues since that’s what we were studying. One conversation in particular sticks in my mind, and probably provided the biggest lesson.

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I’d recently purchased a new dress. She commented that she couldn’t afford such luxuries. At the end of that conversation, she gathered her camping gear and headed off for the weekend. As she left, I bemoaned I couldn’t afford such luxuries. That’s when the light went on for me. Our priorities were different. We could each afford what was important to us. My mindset…

Kit Cassingham

As a L.I.F.E. Design Coach with over 30 years of experience, I guide people to imagine & create their vibrant life for all their years.

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