Years ago I went through a period where I was stuck in a negative reaction cycle. I’d let someone’s opinion of me, or a perceived slight, get under my skin, or I’d get annoyed by actions and mistakes people made. My brain would endlessly chew on the “slight” or behavior and spin around and around it. It was driving me crazy! Probably literally. I didn’t enjoy this cycle, to say the least.

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Digging Deep

The process of digging deep started with self-help groups. You’ve heard that when the student is ready, the teacher appears. That’s what happened to me. At the county’s health fair there was a table for the local Al-Anon group. Since I came from a background of an alcoholic father and ex-husband, I suspected I’d find some help in that group, so I started attending.

And I’m back

I was loving the new me. No, a better way to say that is that I loved having the “real me”, the me I remembered from my childhood, the me I knew lived inside me somewhere, shining her love and respect on the world.

But Wait, There’s More!

Another “layer of my onion”, or another step in my growth, has recently come to my attention. Ouch! It hurts to see how I’ve been treating people from the position of my passion for growth, and it’s good to address the issue now before more damage is done.

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As a transformation coach with over 30 years of experience, I guide people to amplify their lives to achieve excellence.

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